An Open Letter To Families of Addicts
I am writing this letter to family members of addicts. Too often these days, we have something in common. Addiction. Unfortunately it is a common thread in most, if not all, families.
My family is no different. My husband, brother, and sister-in-law are all in recovery. Like so many others, my loved ones made many monumental, devastating mistakes while under the influence of drugs and alcohol and had to pay the consequences. However, it seems there is no greater consequence than the shame and loathing they have of themselves.
The consequences of addiction are long-standing and far-reaching. While they fight to quiet their addiction, they are also fighting to regain the life they have squandered. I do not envy the overwhelming task they have before them; however, I have seen firsthand that it can be done. My own husband and loved ones are testaments to the miracles that recovery brings.
I am an advocate for changing the stigma of this terrible disease. This starts with the consequences brought on by addiction. I vehemently believe in second (third, fourth, etc) chances because if I didn't, I would have given up on my own loved ones long ago.
Do not give up on your addict. Give him consequences for his actions, despise his behavior, but don't ever give up on him. Encourage him to work a program of recovery and contribute in a positive way to society.
Addicts suffer, and they force everyone they touch to suffer too. But an addict in recovery is the strongest person in the room. They show the most honesty, integrity, and authenticity of anyone I know. I pray that your addict will build a life of recovery that will inspire others to get sober.
I promise that a program of recovery will work miracles in his life and the lives of those who love him.
I fully support you and your family as you continue on your journey of healing, positivity, and redemption.
As a fellow advocate of the fight against addiction, I know that we are all stronger together.